Judgemental or Discerning?

So then, you will know them by their fruits.

 (Matthew 7:20 NASB)

It has been my experience that those left on the outside by the type discernment this passage demands will label it as being judgmental. Those confronted by a loving brother often return fire with "Judge not, that ye be not judged." (Matt.7:1 KJV) entirely missing the point that both of these verses are from the same teaching by Jesus Christ. We must be discerning while remembering that we are all held to the same standard revealed in the Word and it's only through His grace that we are not all condemned and punished already.

But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was. (James 1:22-24 NASB)

Lord, Help me in my "discerning" to be full of grace that I might not become judgmental.